The post I am putting up today has nothing to do with fitness, weight loss, exercise yada yada. In fact, to tell you the truth I haven't been to the gym in a week. Be careful who you let be the keeper of your heart. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now. We had our ups and downs but I had no doubt that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with man. Ex military, thought he was upstanding. Did I mention I have such honor and respect for our military? Therefore, honored and respected him for his service. He is a single dad of 3. Played the victim card well, xwife cheated on him 3 separate times, once with his cousin. All while he was a way in Afghanistan. I was loyal to the letter. Gave him the best. I would think about ways to show him my love and caring. There was always a feeling in my gut, though. Again, be careful who you let be the keeper of your heart. Guard your precious heart ladies and gentlemen. When I met this man in February of last year (2012) at my job, he seemed nice enough. I would hold minor conversations with him while I checked the books and movies out to him and his kids. One day, he asked me to go workout with him and passed me his phone number. I waited a week to call him, because frankly, he wasn't all my type. In fact, I lost his number and had to ask for it when he came back in the library. I am somewhat of a show-off when it comes to the gym so I was happy to hit the gym with him to show him what I am made of. I was not expecting to end up dating him and frankly if he would have asked me on a date first off, I would have said no. I have been single for a long time waiting on a man worth of my heart. Not knowing where you meet people, not wanting to meet someone at a bar. Not having anyone at my church single and my age. Anyway, our conversation while at the gym was good. He seemed like such a good dad from the stories that I heard. Seemed real meek mannered. I like that. Well, we went for a smoothie after and talked more. We planned a date to watch the Hunger Games movie. This is where this should have ended but dumb me believed the best in him. Got completely stood up once. Heard dumb excuse after that. I told him all he had to do was be upfront and honest, let me know he can't make it and things would go so much smoother. Honestly, I should have never answered his calls or texts again. Well, we tried for it again. I got stood up a second time. Another dumb excuse and apology after the fact. Third time, I didn't show or anything because I wasn't going to get ready just to be stood up. Didn't happen, he actually called and showed. Rather than believe the actions, I believed the words. Stood me up for Pluckers to watch his precious Thunder play. He told me he was there, but left before i made it without calling. We split up. I never wanted to see him again. Called me after a couple months. He had just gotten a job and was going out of town for training. Kissed me on the lips and said I will see you soon. Well, he dropped off the face of the earth that weekend so re-kindle, I think not. didn't speak for the rest of the summer but back in September, he popped up again. Well, I should have known better but thought it could be great this time. Things went so smoothly there for a long time. Let's just say that I have learned my lesson. Always go with your gut!!! Something just didn't feel right. There were times he just wouldn't answer the phone. Always some dumb excuse. Well, this past Wednesday, I got my answer. A woman called my job, identified herself. Said I don't know her and proceeded to ask me if I knew ______ and what was my relationship to him. I told her yes I did, he was my boyfriend of the past year and a half. She started crying and told me she is his pregnant fiance. I am so hurt. He would talk about the future, marriage, everything with me. I could have saved myself money, time, and so so much heartache if only I had listened to my gut. How on earth could he lie to each of us like that? Put a ring on her finger, put me on his phone plan.
I have spent so much time and money looking out for his well being. He is a liar, and a loser. He would take take take. That is bad enough if he knew he didn't want me a part of his future. But, to know that at the same time, he was ENGAGED to someone else? Oh, and the night he asked her to marry him? The morning he came by my job to get back together with me then went out of town for training. She went out of town with him and stayed all weekend. He asked her to marry him that first night. crazy!! Too much to fully understand. I just don't get it. I guess you just live and learn. I know she dropped him, as did I. I just hope she doesn't go back to him. I know I will not......ever!!!!!!!!! Can't wait for him to get the cancellation fee on the cell phone plan. 300 dollars is a start.
Came by your blog from a "bombshell" report- I know you haven't blogged in awhile so I wanted to put a comment here just in case you still get notifications. You deserve SO much better than to be treated that way. I pray that you do not allow the hurt to keep you from staying healthy. I went through so rough times like this and I ATE non-stop to feel better, so I know how hard something like this can be when you worked so hard to get it off in the first place. I wish you the best.
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